How sad to hear that Whitney Houston was found dead. The woman is younger than me and had more than me, or did she. Money isn’t everything. Peace of mind, love, a reason for living is what life is all about. Love, remember is a choice that you have to make. Think about it, you see a person across the room and you feel something, isn’t it a choice to make contact? Jimmy and I had to make the choice to see if we still wanted to make our marriage work. Did we want to fix the harm we have done to each other or start over? If we choose to start over, we still have to be in each other’s lives, so than are we really starting over or just hiding from our hurt.
Jimmy and I were trying to sort things out. Could Jimmy forgive me? After all I was having an affair of the
heart, is what he called it. Valentine’s Day came and Jimmy planned a little night away without me knowing it. He called my boss to make sure I would be off. He had the kids pack up a suitcase for me and blind folded me to our destination. I am not sure our night was as romantic as he had planned because I was still in remorse of what I had done, still pleading with him to forgive me and so ashamed of
myself. Our lives kept busy at home with work, Gina’s basket ball games and the high light of March when Regina got baptized. Even with all we were doing wrong, another one of my kids wanted to get baptized.
We were getting calls from my sister in law, telling us that my father in law was getting worse. Some times she would just cry saying over and over again, I don't know what to do. She called the week of Valentines and said that her boyfriend had a dozen roses delivered to the house but she never saw them. A few days later she found them in the garage, all cut up. When she asked Grandpa Joe what happened he couldn’t tell her. He honestly didn't know.
Adias turned six years old and we had a big birthday party for her, you know, the kind I use to have when my kids were small and I so enjoyed and missed. The time was flying, with Jimmy and I trying to fix our marriage, working, and family obligations. Easter flew by and a couple people from work came by with their kids to enjoy my tradition of coloring Easter eggs.
At the same time my oldest daughter, Kristina told us she was getting married. I felt bad, because I really didn’t have the money to give her a wedding but she had it all planned out. She decided to have her wedding at the Botanical Gardens in Oklahoma City. She bought the material and sewed all the bridesmaid dresses. We drove to Oklahoma for the wedding with the kids, and Jimmy made the food for the rehearsal dinner. I fixed the girls hair and had my girl friend come over to do their makeup. My mother made the flower arrangements. And last but not least I took the wedding photos. My girls took Kristina out for a little bachelorette party a couple days before the wedding, and that is when I saw my first Drag show. I tell you what; I couldn’t tell that these girls were really guys. My daughter got married on April 12, 2002. My husband and I got married on April 13 and it was such an honor to know she wanted a date close to ours.
The wedding was beautiful in the middle of the garden, and they were such an elegant looking couple. Kristina was just beautiful. Dinner was afterwards with my mother and Aaron’s mom cutting the wedding cake. After the throwing of the bouquet and garter, they drove off in a horse and carriage. The next day we sat with the bride and groom while they opened their gifts for all to see.
To watch this wedding and listen to the sermon helped Jimmy and me see why it was so important to keep what we had and to make it better, than quit and try with someone else later. Listening to these newlyweds vows, brought back memories of our own, and remembering the commitment that we made so many years ago. Yes we were still in love with each other and we planned to make our marriage work. I was so proud of the two of them, what they had accomplished together, pulling off this beautiful wedding almost all by themselves.
Before we left Oklahoma we went to visit the new memorial of the OKC bombing. The reason I went to school to become a paramedic. The reason I decided to face my fear of school. The reason I let God
talk me into helping people a different way than I had been.
Time went on and this time Jessica was graduating high school. It is so hard to see your kids grow up. You want them to depend on you always but as they grow, they learn more than you will ever know,
and they cut the string.
As the summer passed by we had fun with some of the people I worked with and their families. For Tiffany’s child’s birthday we barbequed at the park and played games and Kathy and I worked the Monster trucks together. Evett, Tiffany and I took the kids to the zoo for an afternoon of fun. One of the girls at work, Becky, we gave a baby shower to. Plus Tiffany and I had fun tee-peeing our husband’s cars together. We had a double birthday party for Brannon and Armie, Evett’s boys, at the pool to their complex along with hot dogs and hamburgers. My friend Jennifer and I also spent a day at the zoo with our kids and the boss’s kids.
Erik turned twenty two years old and his girl friend had written all over his car happy birthday. We spent a day at the Decatur Celebration listening to the music, looking at the vendors and having fun with the rides. Than all of a sudden Jennifer told me she was leaving with Adias for Oklahoma and took off with her current boyfriend, taking my grandchild with her.
Mean while we were getting phone calls from Joanne about Grandpa Joe. He was getting more confused. She said that she had locked the door to her room, so he could not get inside and when she got home she found the door off the hinges lying on the floor and her room was a mess. She said she didn’t know how much more of this she could take and was suggesting a nursing home for him. Jimmy and I talked about this and neither one of us wanted dad in a nursing home. We had to come up with a plan. We needed to have him live with us. That idea was brought to dad and he said he was not leaving his home. So the next best thing we could think of was to move in with him. We didn’t think it was safe anymore for him to live alone. I mean Joanne was living with him, but she was gone all day and we didn’t think he should be left alone all day. So we came up with the idea to sell our home, quit our jobs and move in with dad.
As we made our plans and told our place of employments, Jimmy talked to the people I worked with and they helped him have a surprise birthday party for me. Friends from church and friends from work showed up to make this a wonderful memory. They knew we were planning on moving so they had two cakes one saying happy birthday and one saying Good Luck.
Well this is all for today. I hope you are all doing well. I am excited because my new partner Ross is designing a book cover for my newest book. I will give you a sneak peek. I was hoping to have it published by tomorrow but I haven’t started that process yet, so it hopefully should be published before the end of the month. Look for it. If you like gangsters and Tommie-guns mixed with some romance you will like my newest book called Rosemary & Antonio. Talk to you soon.
I am the Author
a wife, a mother, a grandmother, and still believe in the power of love &