Hello and welcome back to my blog. I am sorry I have not written to much these last few days, but I have been so busy helping Jennifer with Adias’s sixteen birthday party. The party was a huge success and the
rooms were decorated so beautiful. Adias looked lovely in her peach dress and her boyfriend wore a peach tie to match. But now back to reality. I am back at work, a little worn out, and glad to have survived this event. So on with my story.
First let me explain about my father in law at this time. This man who taught us so much about life cannot
take care of himself at all. I bathe him, yet I make him brush his own teeth. Sometimes I shave him and
sometimes he shaves himself. He wears depends, which are adult diapers. He seems to have to ask my permission if he wants to go outside. He has no idea how to turn on a light switch or turn on the TV set. This disease melts the brain and even though he is relatively healthy, his ability to do even the smallest task is disappearing. I have put him on a schedule sort of. I get him up at a certain time, give him his bath and breakfast at a certain time and day care at a certain time. But when the bewitchig hour appears it is hard to have a schedule since all he wants to do is roam around the house. I tuck dad in bed at the same time and actually have a baby monitor in his room so I can hear if he gets out of bed. When he does I tuck him right back in again. I decided that maybe with a schedule it would help him know what he is suppose to be doing. I found that through my 49 years, life was challenging and always an adventure.
In October it was time to move to our new home in Arizona. Jimmy flew with Grandpa Joe because it would be too hard to drive this long distance with him in the car. When he got to Arizona Jimmy put dad into a nursing home temporarily and Jimmy started his new job. Regina, Jessica, Adias and I got into
the car and drove to Decatur first to visit my son Erik and his wife Betsy. Next we drove to Oklahoma to visit my daughter Kristina, her husband Aaron and her new son / my new grandson Damien. Those were our two little stops before the long haul ahead towards Arizona.
Our first sight was as we were leaving Oklahoma and getting into Texas was the Biggest Cross in the Western Hemisphere. I decided that since we had to take this long road trip I would try to make if fun. So we drove, spent a night in a hotel and drove some more till we were leaving New Mexico and saw a sign saying Painted Desert. This was an amazing sight to see the mountains with the rocks painted in shades of red, orange, gray and white.
Next we saw a sign showing us a way to the Grand Canyon and decided that we needed to make our trip a few hours longer and drove forward to one of God’s beautiful creations. I don’t even know how to write down any words of the beauty of the place. I took pictures but even my pictures could not show the magnificent beauty that was shown.
Well we showed up to a town home that Jimmy’s job let us rent until Friday when the moving truck was going to show up. Quickly we cleared through the boxes and put everything away before we went to the nursing home to pick up dad. My heart broke when I saw how skinny dad was and that he wasn’t even
wearing his own clothes. Plus the fact that it was one hundred degrees outside and he was wearing a long sleeved shirt. He was totally off his schedule, confused and my job was to try and put him back on his schedule and comfort him again.
Phoenix was full of cotton plants, orange trees and cactus trees. The weather was warm, something we definitely were not use to. Jennifer, Jessica, Regina, Adias, and Grandpa Joe were all living in our home.
This can be stressful on a marriage with Jimmy at a new job, and I am looking for a job and trying to get Grandpa Joe situated. Trying to get Regina settled back into high school and Jennifer was being deployed to Turkey and Afghanistan. I was going to be mom again for Adias for the year or however long the army was going to keep Jenny.
I had to keep my cool, try to be there for Jennifer and listen to her fears about her daughter in
case she didn’t come back alive. It was hard for her as she tried to spend as much time she could with Adias before she had to leave. She seemed brave on the outside but sometimes I would catch her crying, with worry and fear. She was told she would not be home for Christmas so I decided that I needed all my kids together for Thanksgiving. One big fun reunion before she had to leave.
Well this is all for today. I have been so busy on my ambulance today it is hard to find the time to write.
Thank you for coming back and reading this and I will catch you tomorrow.
I am the Author
a wife, a mother, a grandmother, and still believe in the power of love &